Private Advisory.
For couples and families who are building a business together.
The couples and families I work with aren't struggling because they lack skill or commitment. They're struggling because they're operating inside a system they've never quite been able to see clearly.
Roles blur. Decisions stall. Conversations that start about the business end somewhere harder. And the pressure doesn't stay in one place — it moves between the business, the relationship, and the family, because that's what pressure does when the same relationships are carrying both the business and the family.
When the system between you is under strain, everyone feels it — your team, your family, each other.
Private advisory is where we make that system visible. And once it's visible, it becomes workable.
Who this is for.
Private advisory is for couples and families running a business together who know the dynamic between them needs to be as strong as the business they're building.
You don't need to be in crisis. Most of the people I work with are capable and committed — they've simply hit the limits of what they can navigate without an outside perspective.
This is for you if:
You're both in the business, and the line between business partners and life partners has become hard to manage
Decisions keep circling or getting delayed because conversations about them go sideways
You're pulling in different directions and it's starting to cost you
The tension between you is showing up in how you parent, and your kids are feeling it
You want to parent well together, not just alongside each other, but as a genuinely coordinated team
You want someone who can see the whole picture — the business, the relationship, the family — and help you work it as a system
This is not therapy. It's not business coaching in the traditional sense. It's systems work — rigorous, relational, and built for people who take both their business and their family seriously.
What this work is.
Private advisory is an ongoing advisory relationship. Not a coaching programme, not a series of sessions with homework between them.
We work with what's actually happening in your world: the decisions circling without resolution, the dynamic between you that keeps producing the same friction, the places where your roles, values, or communication aren't yet aligned. That might be a business decision, a parenting approach, or the way you're managing the stress of doing both at once.
I work diagnostically. Before anything else, I help you understand what's really going on in the system between you, and then we build from there. Clearer roles. More functional communication. Decisions you can both stand behind (about the business, about parenting, about how you want to operate together).
This work also helps each of you understand yourselves more clearly: what drives you, what triggers you, what you actually value. That self-knowledge changes how you lead, how you parent, and how you show up for each other.
This is practical, strategic work. It just happens to sit at the intersection of business, relationship and family, because that's where the real leverage is.
How advisory works.
Advisory with me is shaped around what's actually happening in your world — not a fixed programme or a session-by-session formula.
Here's what our work typically looks like:
We meet together — in pairs, groups or sometimes individually, depending on what the work requires
We identify the patterns running the show: the recurring friction points, the places where communication breaks down or decisions stall
We use the PEACE Method™ to create a shared framework for navigating pressure, communicating under stress, and making decisions you can both commit to
We work on real moments — specific conversations, decisions, dynamics — not hypotheticals
You leave each session with something concrete: a clearer view, a better framework, a next move
Between sessions, you're not left without support. If something important comes up, there's a way to reach out.
Our cadence is flexible. Generally very high-touch in the early stages for most clients, shifting to fortnightly or monthly as the work settles and the system stabilises.
What the first months often look like.
Every engagement begins where you are, not where a programme says you should be.
For some clients, the early work is about untangling role confusion that's been building for years. For others, it's a specific decision point — a growth move, a restructure, a succession conversation — that's exposing cracks in how they work together.
We begin with a close look at the dynamic between you right now. From there, the work unfolds one conversation, one decision, one insight at a time.
What changes.
When the system between you becomes visible and starts to shift, the changes tend to be structural as much as relational:
Decisions get made — clearly, together, and without the loop
Roles sharpen, and each of you knows where your authority begins and ends
Conversations that used to stall or escalate become more direct and more productive
The business benefits from people who are genuinely coordinated, not just cooperative
The pressure stops moving between business and home quite so freely
Your kids feel the shift — children settle when the adults around them are more coordinated and less reactive
You understand yourself more clearly, and that changes how you lead your team, how you show up for your kids, and how you relate to others
You operate more like strategic partners in the business — and feel more like a team at home
This kind of change is quieter than people expect. But it compounds and it lasts, because it comes from the root not the surface.
The investment.
Private advisory is designed to begin as a six month partnership. The depth this work requires doesn't come from short engagements — it comes from consistent support as real decisions and real pressure unfold.
Many clients continue beyond the initial six months.
Investment: From NZD $8,000 ( excluding GST) for a six-month partnership, scoped to the size and complexity of your situation. Payment plans available upon request.
We work in a flexible format that serves the moment — Video or in-person sessions, phone calls, email, text.
We check in frequently to make sure the advisory is landing well. Any decision to adjust, pause, or conclude is made through mutual decision.
How to get started.
I work with a small number of advisory clients at a time. Fit matters — for all of us.
If this resonates, the next step is a brief application. It helps me understand what you're navigating and whether private advisory is the right support for where you are.
If it looks like a good fit, we'll have a 30-minute conversation — a chance to talk openly about what's happening and get a sense of whether working together feels right.
Some people decide quickly. Others want a second conversation before committing. There's no pressure either way.
If we all feel it's right, we begin.
Common questions.
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The short answer is yes.
This work is designed for long-term clarity, not quick fixes.
Most clients know within the first one to two months that the partnership is right for them, and we’ll check in early to make sure we’re both aligned.
If either of us feels it isn’t the right fit, we’ll discuss it openly and decide the next step together. -
This is high-touch advisory for business owners and leaders who want clarity, steadiness and healthier relationships in the parts of their life that influence everything else.
We work in the present, with the moments and decisions that matter most right now, taking into account how the past might influence your current situation. -
If you’re feeling stretched thin, carrying too much, or struggling to navigate the pressures that sit between business, partnership and family, this work is likely a good fit.
The initial call is a gentle way to explore that without committing to anything. -
There’s no set schedule.
We shape the engagement around what’s happening in your world and the amount of support you need to get the outcomes you are after. -
It’s ok if you don’t feel ready to commit to 6 months. Feel free to book a conversation with me so we can talk through what you’re navigating and see whether the kind of advisory I offer is genuinely the right fit for you.
If it’s not the right timing or format, we’ll talk about alternatives. The aim of the conversation is clarity, not commitment.
However you arrive, you won’t be doing this alone.
You bring the courage to look honestly at what’s happening.
I bring the calm, clarity, and practical guidance to help you move through it — with more connection, more confidence, and a little more breathing room in all the places that matter.